Whilst I hope to continue writing beyond graduation, for my last blog post as a UON student, I’d like to share, for those at the beginning or early stages of their degree, some of the things I’m glad I did, and the things I wish I had done, maybe something will resonate with you.

I’m glad I…

Found opportunities to prove myself: Although I worked before doing my degree, being course representative, student voice as well as a research assistant have helped me build confidence and skills and given me so much more to talk about when I’m selling myself in both professional and academic applications.

Maintained my routine: I’ve never pulled an all-nighter or found myself regularly submitting at 11:58pm (just one exception!) I knew I couldn’t give my best when stressfully counting down the minutes to midnight and being sleep deprived. I tried different ways and routines of studying and found something that was sustainable. As far as possible I maintained boundaries so as not to put myself in a position where sacrificing sleep was a necessity.

Didn’t compare myself (often!): It’s easy to see other people getting higher grades, doing more things, doing ‘harder’ topics, and to feel inferior. We’re all on our own journeys, have our own interests, our own barriers and limitations and that’s ok. I never have been and probably never will be a ‘straight A’ student, but I’ve worked incredibly hard for the grades I have got. And truly, in all the interviews I’ve done in the last 4 months (lots), they’ve been more interested my grit and compassion than everything else!

I wish I had…

Connected more: I wish I’d pushed a little harder to make some friends or some more familiar faces. University can be really lonely, for so many reasons, and I think lots of students feel this way! Perhaps pushing through that fear of the unknown, and the social anxiety to talk to people on my course, having joined a society or attended more events might have alleviated some of this.

Taken what I needed: I spent years one and two determined not to use extensions, mitigating circumstances or office hours, anything that I perceived to be a setback or a silly question. This resulted in me running out of an exam before finishing, and completing a timed assignment the day after discharge from psychiatric hospital. I turned this around in year three and used what I needed, used extensions, booked in to office hours even if it was just for reassurance and actually felt like I had given my work my best (and this reflected in higher grades!)

Last Nuggets of Advice

Pay attention to what you enjoy: It’s easy to see it all as just hard work, rush to get it done and then feel lost in the end. I’ve now started on a masters degree towards a career path I never thought I’d pursue, focussing on something that isn’t even my strongest skill, but I’ve decided its worth the challenge for something I’m going to enjoy.

Reflect, reflect, reflect: I’ve learned so much by taking the time to reflect on what I’m experiencing or learning, how it makes me feel and why, why I do or don’t want to do it, where my thoughts are coming from. I wholeheartedly recommend regularly thinking about these things (or writing about them!) The ability to be reflective is assessed more than you might think, and you never know what it might reveal to you.

You are more than this: No matter what grades you get, how you handle uni life, if you make friends or not, do ‘extra’ stuff or not, do a masters, or not. You’re still… you, with so many good qualities, values and goals that are not tied to your achievements, it may or may not always be the life changing experience you hoped it would be. This is an important time, sure, but it’s not more important than your health, your values, your sense of self.

Remember, you can only do what you can, with what you have at the time. Take care.